午饭时和来自世界各国的女同事们讨论虎妈,她们(也许是在大学里工作的原因)都认为这里的小学校几乎没有作业,浪费了大量时间,家长应该让孩子做些事。她们也都承认在家里辅导孩子做额外功课,多多少少都有虎妈的影子。其实我不是真正的虎妈,因为我的原则是鼓励孩子自愿。我还发现让孩子自愿多学习的最好办法是帮助他们建立自信。假期和周末,我经常抓住机会让孩子做一些课外作业,每天可多次但每次不宜时间过长。我儿子快5岁了,上Reception,除了每周带回两本书读,学校还没开始留作业。我每次只让他做10-20分钟的作业。与其说是让孩子做课外作业不如说和孩子一起玩儿的时间。书是我事先根据他的水平精选的,不能离他在学校里学的内容太远而且几乎都有粘贴,每次我都让他自己选书做。我让他大声朗读题目,因为这有利于提高阅读能力。他有时喜欢坐在我的腿上做,他做出每一题,我总会很夸张地夸奖他聪明。每次做完我们都会再把作业装饰一番, 因为英国小学的作业也会这样要求,这有利于提高孩子的创造力。我很少有时间陪孩子,可以看出孩子很想和我一起玩儿,他其实并不在乎玩儿什么,所以我就司机让他做作业玩儿。通过做课外作业,孩子当然会在学校胜出其他孩子一筹,自信心也就建立起来了。尝到了甜头,孩子自然会愿意做更多作业,良性循环也就建立起来了。
转眼间,放弃直辖市最大医院的医生职位而移居英国已经整整十年了。都说四十该不惑,而我却常常陷入茫然和无奈。回首半生历程除惊心动魄之外,已找不到自己的位置,那不能放慢的脚步似乎只为了成就一双儿女。希望这就是人生的快乐(父母和父母的父母也是这样做的)—无奈,也只能这样告慰自己了。唯一能确定的是孩子们需要我,再难我也得为他们撑起一片天,让他们无忧无虑地成长。既然别无选择,何不多想想自己成功之处而让自己快乐些呢?虽然和在国内打拼的大学同学相比,我并不富裕也很累,但除了为房子和车奋斗之外毕竟少了送孩子出国留学之痛。看着街上和校园里日益增多的成群结队的中国学生,虽然他们当中任何一个的父母的付出都会远超过我,但是他们还是无法真正融入这里学到真谛。而我却可以和我的孩子们一起在英国的社会体系中锤炼和成长。更为重要的是,移民十年让我学会了利用法律保护和约束自己并利用智慧和勤奋享受公平。
越来越多的国内朋友向我咨询移民十年的感受,特别是两国教育的区别以及留学策略等。在英国的华人朋友和一些英语国家的新移民则更希望和我探讨和分享我教育和辅导孩子的经验。因为在工作中投入太多的精力,实在是无法分身一一作答。偶然看到不到十四岁的女儿在她自己的微搏上玩儿命,便请她代劳为我也建立一个。希望这个Blog能成为为自己解惑和抒怀的平台的同时也能为朋友们答一些疑。
The critical security threats to our marine resources here in Philippines are depressingly real. We don’t have enough soldiers, let alone, competitive technology and equipment, to protect our immensely rich marine life.
A comment from today’s news (http://news.yahoo.com/philippine-navy-standoff-chinese-ships-015620064.html):“Eight Chinese fishing boats Illegally fishing for endangered species and destroying the marine environment at Scarborough Shoal — at what looks to be about 500 nautical miles from China — well outside any internationally agreed zone - oh, I forgot, China does not respect international laws or treaties unless they benefit China. But China is bigger so they can take whatever they want, send their warships into the territories of other countries, and bully anyone who dares speak up against them. What’s next? Are the Chinese going to claim the Hawaiian islands as “their 5000 years ago” property? Maybe they will try to take Okinawa back from Japan. After all, China ruled Okinawa during the middle ages.”
My thoughts as a realist: Of course, China can. But it most likely won’t. Hawaii and Okinawa have less resources compared to the entire Philippine archipelago. So why bother bullying those areas? xD
China has more than 1.3 BILLION people. They have the world’s largest army. They practically own the United States… So, while there are still people ridiculously claiming that there is such a thing as overpopulation in Philippines - without understanding the difference between “overdensity” and “overpopulation”, and the reality that the NSO figures on our *official* population (95.8 million++) are far, far different from the *ACTUAL* population (around 70 million only) because LGUs want bigger cuts from the IRA (pork barrel), and thereby tremendously bloating local population figures annually - China continues to bully its way to do what it wants even if it tramples on our national sovereignty.
So why aren’t Filipinos rallying its power against China?
Perhaps because most Filipinos would rather spend their precious time looking good (in the sense that they feel like they can do something when they only have to bully fellow Filipinos - and not Big China, hehehe!), inanely still debating over population control issues, which make them feel more in control instead of feeling helpless. O:
So, what to do?
Even if we are to peg our total Philippine population to a fictitious 100 million, that would still be less than 10% of China’s ACTUAL population to date.
Is it a good reason for the ASEAN to promote its unity to merely prepare to fight China? I reckon that such a move will only slow down China’s great destiny of being a huge contributor to world unity and global prosperity.
It is no accident that the Chinese are good in math, and that they are great in business. There is also a momentum in the richness of their culture. China is not a stranger to invasion and deception. Over the centuries, China has had its share of invaders and enslavers. Do we want to have a model of unity, that will simply fight a newly resurgent China? Or would we rather embrace China as a brother? as a friend? And give due recognition to its unique role to global prosperity?
There will be aberrant behaviours on the part of China along the way - but it is part of the process. Throughout all this, education is the one thing that will enable people to bring out the best within themselves. And bring that to bear on global development and prosperity.
Perhaps we can send more Filipino English teachers - instead of just soldiers and diplomats - to relate with China. Education is always the best way to cultivate virtues of love, oneness of humanity, respect, cooperation, and the like. #RantOver
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